We don’t mean to – but sometimes as women we mistakes with men that can be devastating.
We forget how to be the woman he adores.
Mistakes we make with men can be avoided.
A woman who is not partnering with her mate from her feminine state of being often makes one or more of the below 5 mistakes. A modern day woman is not a weak woman, she knows how to a powerful leader in the right circumstances ( such as at work or in her business), she is also a woman who knows how to create romantic polarity with a partner and when to engage more of her feminine side so he can engage more of his masculine. She knows the difference. Knowing the difference can make or break a relationship.
Mistake #1 – She does not appreciate his masculinity.
Men have many gifts to give the world. They protect, they lead with direction, they focus on what they are doing and work hard, they fix things, they bring adventure to our lives, they make us feel feminine. Unfortunately, many women often think men should be more like them and do not honor their “masculine” gifts.
Just as a feminine woman wants to be understood, so do men. They want to feel “alive” in his masculine essence. A modern day woman appreciates her man. She ignites his presence as he does hers and you don’t hear her sitting around asking, “Where are all the good men?”
Often, a woman will step into a masculine role because the man does not take charge. For example, if the man does not make strong decisions, the woman will step in and make the decision in order to get things moving.
A modern day woman does not want to be the more controlling one in a relationship and knows that doing so can cause disharmony. She knows her man will not feel like he needs to be in his masculine essence if she is taking on a masculine role. He will not feel the need to step up, take charge, and treat her as the beautiful queen she is…
A suggestion is to let him know how much you trust him and his decisions. Every day, tell your man one specific way that you trust him, and watch his masculine side grow. Watch the expansive cycle of growth and energy of love increase between the two of you.
Mistake # 3 – She does not realize that a man wants a woman who inspires him.
We’ve heard it said time and time again: “Men are only after one thing.” But is this true? It’s true that men put a woman’s sexual attractiveness high on their list of priorities, and that they are biologically programmed more than women to be driven by sex. But at a deeper level, what a man really wants from his woman is to be inspired “out of his head.”
Most men live in their heads much of the day which is often why the feminine is so captivating and relaxing to them. They have a deep inner need to let go of their incessant mental activity. Sex satisfies this need very well, although there are other ways a woman can offer this gift too. A modern day woman knows how to express how she feels more often than speaking intellectually.
She also stays in her feminine with him with the way she talks, moves and relates to him. She is fun, easy to be with and can invite a man let and it it’s ok to get “out of his head” Rather than keep him stuck there all the time..
Mistake #4 – She thinks, “I don’t need a man”
If a man does not perceive that he can be of service to a woman, he won’t be attracted to her. This does not mean you must play the damsel in distress, or be a nag, or be “needy.” He wants to serve you and to make you happy.
As a modern day woman you can lift up your man and allow him the opportunity to open doors for you, yet don’t make a big deal about whether he does or not. Let him carry your bags—again, not making a big deal of it.
Let him find something to do for the evening, after telling him you want to do something fun together. If you feel emotional, share that. Let him hold you or just listen to you. Feel free to ask nicely for exactly what you want. Be open to “needing” a man. Stop playing the role of Super-Woman and insisting on doing everything yourself, even if you can. What if the greatest sign of strength were to let go of control and allow someone else to help you? Be open to receive his love.
Mistake #5 – She does not deliberately create sexual polarity.
A crucial relationship skill is to deliberately create sexual polarity by connecting to your feminine essence—at appropriate times. There may be times in the day when you do not feel very connected to your feminine side and may not need to be, such as when you pay bills or at work.
On the other hand, there may be other times of the day when you really want to connect to your feminine essence, such as when you lie in bed with your lover, while on a romantic stroll, or after a tough day of work.
The most important times to connect to your feminine genius are: when you are getting ready to go on a date, when you and your lover spend quality time together, when you are transitioning from your work day to your evening, when you first get up in the morning and just before you go to bed at night.
By avoid making these 5 key mistakes you will not only be treated like a goddess but you inspire men to raise up their frequency in honor of you and in honor of their own god-like self that he is meant too.
Here’s to love,
Teresa Salhi – Feminine Genius & Relationship Coach
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Some good points, and number 1 I believe is true that women often try to take over the masculine role and oppress the partner’s masculinity.
Great tips, Teresa. I’ve been with the same man for 35 years and I’ve learned it’s important to have balance in the relationship, uplift and support each other and celebrate the different strengths each person has to offer.
Tami, you and your beloved have obviously figured out what works for each other and you two are surely an inspiration for others.
This is what I’ve learned from a long marriage. Married life is a partnership based on respect. Both partners have strengths and weaknesses. Neither one has to be responsible for everything. As much as you hate to admit being wrong, let your partner know they were right and move on. And, if you’re right and they don’t see it, let it go and move on.
Thanks for the tips of experience Joyce.
These are all powerful information. That’s true. If we emasculate men, they would lose their enthusiasm, feel sabotaged and unappreciated. In the end, these cause further complications and eventually result to divorce.
Thanks for reading Lorii. We definitely want to empower our relationships and enjoy them to the fullest.
A lot of great tips.. and if we communicate with our mate properly… we both pull the same amount of weight and don’t feel like an us v them and we can work together as we were meant – a team.
Right on Kristen, team work can be so damn sexy!
Awesome tips and great advice Teresa! A few “aha” moments for me thank you!
Wonderful Joan!
This is great advice. I agree. I find that telling my hubby I appreciate him for what he does for me and our family often really helps our connection with one another.
A little appreciation sure can go a long way. Thanks Sabrina.
Oh, Teresa, I so love this! Especially for us women who grew up when women first started stretching our wings from the “traditional” roles in relationships, I believe our natural inclinations somehow got lost in the mix. Then, as a lifelong student of myth, I began to see all of that differently, and more in the anima/animus relationships of things. It makes all the difference, no?
GREAT post!
Yes, things have changed as women began moving out in the world more and more. Thanks Susan.
Oh, yes. Men need tons of appreciation (in my experience) and losing that feeling can make a relationship go south right quick. Men truly love to be heroes in our eyes!
I don’t know about you, Reba, but I like my man to be a hero too!
I can see how these things disrupt relationships. Personally, I dislike taking on the motherly role and having to nag my husband to get his stuff done. That ruins my feminine essence for sure. Great reminders here and good tips to improve our relationships.
Oh gosh, I so agree with you Meghan. Thanks for stopping by…..
I’m guilty of number 4 :/ I have been single for over 2 years and you get in that mindset that you don’t need a man. I know i will need to mellow a little when i do meet someone.
I feel we sometimes tell ourselves we don’t need a man or “anyone” so we can motivate ourselves – it is only an issue when we live it with a conviction that there is something wrong with men.
Interesting perspective. Never had the “fairy-tale” image of a relationship for myself, but I love the idea of empowering our partner. I think the greatest mistake a woman makes is looking for someone to “fill the hole” inside her. When a woman looks to a man to do this, it is a disaster. Men cannot fill that hole. It has to be filled by the woman herself. Healthy men are attracted to emotionally healthy women.
It is true Candess, we never look to any one to fill a hole in our life. That really is our job to take care of ourselves and show up in our relationships whole and pure.
While I was reading this I kept thinking that it would be lovely if women and men lived from a place of balance of masculine and feminine and that there wasn’t a skew in one direction. Each of us has different ‘love languages’ and it is important to honour ourselves and not feel we have to compromise any part of ourselves to be more of anything to someone else. As I am not in a relationship currently, I am not sure how what some of your points would look like to be at this point in my life. I agree that so often we want the fairy-tale vision of romance and love and life soon enough, shows us that all relationships do require work. In a good way though. Thanks Teresa for sharing your passion with us!
We all have both masculine and feminine energies / traits within us. But we generally dominate in one or the other. I guess if we were all exactly the same there would not be any difference in sexes and that would not create our sexual polarity which is what the makes the world go around and the passion we have for another. Life is definitely not a fairy-tale nor are true, authentic relationships.
Theresa,
A great post that I enjoyed and reallyliked the way you presented this becuase it was classy. We are women who deserve the best respectfor ourselves ,but also the families we raise and themen we marry. Thank you for the great post keeps me grounded which is a wonderfulway of looking at relationships in general terms.
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Lori English
Thank you Lori, I am glad you enjoyed reading and took away just what I was hoping you would.
Yes I did thank You Teresa You have Touched me and really appreciate you in your quest . I love connecting with woman that are willing to help others grow.