Relationships, they come and they go. It’s like an ebb and flow of souls interacting on a physical journey. It’s supposed to be that way, I guess. It may not always feel ok at first – but eventually it is. Who said they are meant to be in our life forever, anyway? We’ve all heard someone say that real friends are forever or marriages must be from now til the end of time. I’ve come to believe that is not necessarily true nor is it false. It just is and that’s ok…
In relationships we tend to change. We grow, evolve, expand our consciousness, our beliefs, perceptions, ideas, dreams and what we like or don’t like and even change our vocabulary. These are all good things to experience even if it doesn’t feel that way at the time. To be the same person, exactly the same person, forever would be detrimental to engaging with all that life and love has to offer.
The Law of Attraction is about receiving in the outer world a mirror of what we are feeling on the inside. This means everything that shows up in our life is somehow related to what our dominate thoughts and feelings are within us. If there is any doubt how you feel about something – just look around and notice what you are experiencing in your physical life right now.
It works the same with relationships. We attracted them to us – we were in a energetic harmony of common feelings and thoughts related to things like our syle, beliefs, personality, desires, demeanor, confidence, etc.. It doesn’t mean we are exaclty alike – in fact you might think that person was your exact opposite! So what’s that all about? Yes, we often see opposite type people together. That’s because there is still an energy of commoness. Think of it as a giving attention to something in common.
She gives attention to being neat and tidy ….and abhors messiness. He’s a messy kinda guy, lives from this space and may notice or think about it often but is pretty much ok with it. See the commonality of messiness? Hmmm….
This is also way relationships end….
All of our experiences change us little by little – not just relationships. We changed, they changed due to our experiences and we end up dancing to different music. We changed directions with our ideas, beliefs or desires. We got too far out of sync with each other.
Oftentimes, friends will dissipate from our life and we wonder why. This is often the reason. It can be hard to lose a friend or understand what happened, where did they go? Initially, we may not be conscious of what is happening. We might take it personal or be angry and blameful…..
It can be even harder to see the bigger picture when it comes to romantic relationships. Oh, so very hard at times – maybe that’s a version of denial. However, we either can take ahold of this together and consciously work to bring back our magnetic alignment – or, oftentimes, it’s too late or better to let it go. Especially, if we feel like the relationship is holding us back from the growth of our experiences.
Yes, relationships come and go.
This evolving of people in our life can be a very important part of our journey – that’s what I believe anyway. I have learned so much from past relationships and especially the ones that took me years to let go of. Deeply felt romantic ones and bestest of the best friendships have gone awry. I no longer hold any ill feelings, in fact, I am grateful to see the glory from these experiences and as my stepping stones into a better person. I glean from what was shown and offend and keep a piece of the memory as part of my every evolving self.
Dream big darling….
Teresa Salhi
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I spent 11 years in network marketing and was always amazed at the relationships that would come and go so easily when my path went in a different direction. People who I thought were close friends, as soon as I would leave a company or decide to do something different, my relationship with them did a complete 180. This was a hard lesson for me to learn, especially as a Virgo, that its okay for people to come and go from my life and not take it personally or dwell on it for months. Some people are here for only a season and there are lessons to be learned from every connection and relationship. When I focused on that instead of why the person was no longer in my life, it got easier. Such a great post thanks for sharing xo
I am very grateful for all the relationships I have had. Many friendships have ended, while new ones began and that is great. People are in our life for a reason. I look forward to the people I have yet to meet that I will fall in love with.
I love this: “If there is any doubt how you feel about something – just look around and notice what you are experiencing in your physical life right now.” Life certainly is a reflection of our thoughts and beliefs. Very insightful post about a truth that is sometimes hard to accept.
What great insight Teresa. It seems we invest a lot of ourselves into a relationship, and when they fall apart we’re devastated. Explaining at the time that it was not meant to be or that things will get better does little to ease the pain at the time. I’ve learned to look back and see it as a shared experience, but then each of us needed to go on and grow in other directions.
Well said. I have seen close friends fade into the background while others emerge to the forefront..and that’s ok. I am blessed to have a love relationship (my husband) that encourages my growth. I feel I do the same for him. That keeps us happily together
Yes, friendships in particular do come and go and then there are those ones that stay no matter what.
Great post. What we learn from the relationship is really what’s most important. My favorite point is why worry and just let it go! There’s no room for that kind of negativity.
Yep, relationships come and go, but it is all in how we grow from them that really matters 🙂 Thanks for sharing the inspiration, Teresa!
It is true that relationships come and go and we evlve in them during the course of the years. I guess we should all be grateful for the little things in life and worry less about what doesnt really matter.
I totally get what you were saying… but I always say that… people come and go… relationships are ones that are fostered.. sadly… when they are one sided, they come and go too… however, then it isn’t a relationship when one is doing all the work. Anyways… great points.
Yes, every encounter we have is a relationships of some kind, for sure and every single offers the potential for us to grow and learn – even the one with ourselves.
I was just speaking to one of my sons about this today. We were talking about friendships that have ended and I told him I think some people come into our lives as teachers and leave when we have learned what we needed from them. Others are more like support posts and are enduring. Either way, it’s important to rejoice in the lessons learned and the good times had.
I absolutely believe this too Tami!
Oh, so true, Teresa–we grow so much from our relationships. And isn’t that such a beautiful thing? It shows we’re being real, being honest, being open. Part of the true essence of life . . .
Yes, so true, Susan….
I am very thankful for the relationships I have that have stood the test of time, where we have grown together and the bond is deep and powerful. I am also glad for the relationships that were there for a season. Each type of relationship is special in its own way.