Letting Go of a Past Relationship
A past relationship can be one of the hardest things to let go. There are many things we may need to release those can be at the top of the list. You likely already know this if you’ve experienced an ending that you wanted or maybe not. Either way, they take a while to process and move on.
I put together a list of 8 personal activities that helped me to let go of an 8+ year relationship. I gained clarity, let go of hurt and moved on in a positive way. I now relish in what I learned through my experience and how it has helped me to grow as a woman.
1. I had to figured out what I learned from the experience to help me develop a sense of closure. I spent time with my journal making a list of all positive and not so good qualities I possessed in the relationship. I also noted what I learned from . It was really healing to write them out and read over with an open mind.
2. Writing a letter. Once again I took out my journal (if you don’t have one I highly recommend getting one it is so helpful in many ways) and I wrote a letter to my ex clarifying my feelings and expressing the good, the bad and things that were left unsaid. It it helped me come to terms with the reality that it was over. I never sent the letter and it can be up to you if you choose to do so.
3. Remembering all of it, good and bad. I read the book Eat Pray Love and watched the movie countless times something the author said really resonated with me “It’s ok to love someone, remember the good times and then let the thought go.” This meant it was okay for me to remember the moments in our life, acknowledge them and then let go. It helped a lot.
4. Visualized a single me. I would prepare a bubble bath with some lavender oil and a glass of wine and just daydream about all the wonderful things I could do as a single woman. For me, traveling was important and I so loved it! I would picture myself as the person I was before my relationship confident, happy, spontaneous and excited about life.
5. Rewarded me. When I made progress in moving on by deleting old pictures, emails, texts and belongings. I would do something nice for myself like a pedicure, spa treatment, coffee or a new shirt what ever made me happy at that moment.
6. Wrote a nice message for myself. I took a bright pink lipstick and wrote “I give you my light and love,” across the top part of my mirror as something positive that I could read to myself every day.
7. Replaced my emotional thoughts with facts. Instead of telling myself I would never be loved again I would resist that feeling and tell myself something really positive instead like “I had a really good yoga practice yesterday” or “good job on that work out last night.”
8. When feeling down. I would call up my friends and family so I could engage in fun activities surrounded by people who love and care about me.
I hope these tips are helpful. Letting go of anything takes times, especially letting go of a past relationship and someone who was a part of your life. It may not be the easiest thing but you can do it and you can learn so much about yourself and life in the process.
“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace, If you let go alot you will have a lot of peace.”
-Chah Ajahn
Story shared by Ms.Shayla
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