Letting Go & Finding Pleasure – Out of the Funk and Back In The Groove!
Have you ever felt a out of sync with life or with what's going on around you? I sure have. For example, on the outside everything's perfect but on the inside it's all ho hum. For some reason recently I could not get excited about about a special project even though I am very proud of it.
There was a time when I just knew what was wrong with me but this was different, I was definitley in a funk.
After a couple of days of judging myself a little too harshly, I realized something and it had to do with letting go and finding pleasure.
I realized that I was just shifting to the next level – expanding my self awareness and what I was creating. I had to let go of a few things that were not in congruent of what I better knew to be true. I'm not referring to a a physical let go, but emotionally and mentally. I had to let go of trying to do it all by myself or in a certain time frame or in a specific way.
I was getting myself stuck in those preconceived rules that brainwash us into believing we must follow them to be successful, worthy, heard, smart, etc, etc…blah, blah.
It's those type of rules that cause a disconnection with our natural flow – which for women it is about creativity, trust, flexibility, intuition, natural magnetism and sustainable processes.
I had to surrender the force of making what I desired to happen and trust what the next step was to be. This surrender is actually more powerful than any outward force.
One thing that would happen to me and maybe you can relate: As I looked at all the things on my to do list, I would go into overwhelm immediately and felt drained of any joy and energy to work on the list. However, when I took time to reconnect to my feelings of why I wanted to do this project and got out of my head, I felt my answer come to me immediately – the inspiration and ideas flowed in.
I needed to reconnect to my feminine, my inner guidance, my intuition – and do the things that were most important first. I am not talking about the urgent stuff, that gets done right? It's urgent. I'm talking about the most important items that will take me to the next level of my dreams, potential, success and all that juicy stuff.
My answer was to enjoy the process rather than make it about a completion time, a goal or a must-do because of an old belief of how those items are to be delivered. I lost the pleasure pulse of the journey, of the now and of the purpose for doing those projects. For a brief time – I lost my groove and I got in a funk.
Despair no more – I Got My Groove Back.
Maybe you too have lost your groove – temporarily or just not even sure what it is, hmm?.
Here's the deal, if you can remember to keep pleasure and gratitude as the guiding forces in your life – you have then tapped into the greatest natural resources on the planet.
Unfortunately, as women we are not really taught about pleasure, but instead to work hard, study hard, give to others, deprive ourselves of rest and ….follow the rules.
Who teaches us about pleasure?
We must let go of the 'no pain, no gain' concept and to also stop comparing ourselves to others.
Our inner groove is attached to our pleasure but this groove can only make its path into our life if we choose it right now. Where are you today? Not where you after the to-do list is done, or after getting the raise, the job, the lover or the house. Bu where are you now?
We CAN deepen our intuitions, ignite creativity and deliciously bring forth what we most desire – in a natural and unforced magnetic attraction from the universe!
Try thinking about the life you would have if you could. Envision your own fantasy land and have fun now!
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Oh hell, girl. Most women have been taught that everyone else’s pleasure comes first. And if we do take pleasure in something, we feel guilty about it.
Truth! But we are not having any more of that, right Jackie?
Totally agree with using our inner guidance of intution. It’s easy to get off track and get upset that life is not turning out the way we expected. We need to make you the leader of get the groove back movement Teresa.
Ah, love it Joyce and I accept. Thanks darling.
I am so goal oriented, I have to continue to remind myself that I need to enjoy the process. I have learned to do that better with age, but I still need that reminder.
There is most likely always going to be a list, right? Enjoy darling…
I love how you returned to your feminine inner guidance and intuition. I feel I’m making a big shift like this right now too so I really appreciate the encouragement.
That is wonderful Sandra, I am cheering you on.
Great reminders. Seriously. I am such a duty-driven doer. Thanks for helping me remember that there is So.Much.More to life and to me.
Yes, yes there is Sue. Find your inner guide and let that direct in the doing…more fun that way! (wink, wink)
Great post and share Teresa! Something that I am very passionate about….being the best ME that I can be and always listen to my intuition 🙂
Thank you Joan – you are amazing!
I love your statement “My answer was to enjoy the process rather than make it about a completion time, a goal or a must-do” this is SO true and I am guilty of not enjoying the process myself. Something I am actually trying to do right now!. Very timely post, thanks Teresa.
Yeah, I love it when that happens – please take note to enjoy your journey or what is the point, really? Much love, Lisa.
Well said! I think that learning to distinguish between urgent and important is an important exercise because when you’re up to your eyeballs it’s so tempting to go with the squeaky wheel. Thanks!
You are so welcome Marquita, I am happy that resonated with you and gave you something to take away. All the best.
This is great… Remembering and connecting to our why can help us see the “noise” we’ve let creep in. Good reminder!
Thank you Kimberly.
This is such an important message for all of us women, Teresa. Thanks for bringing this aspect of pleasure to the conversation. Several people I know have talked about ‘Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts’, where the guiding principle for everything they do in the extensive course, is….pleasure. If it doesn’t bring you pleasure, switch it up. And no, we are not taught about pleasure. I have my own dynamic as most of my experiences in my physical body have been of pain, so I have little reference to pleasure on any level of my being. I really identify with being in a funk as well and am looking for my way out again. With all the work and all the transformation I have done, there is always more to do! Planning to spend time in nature, as that is a big shifter for me.
I know….do you think we are ever done? I used to ask myself that and if I will I ever be done with my personal growth and spiritual learning, etc. But I have since learned the answer is no or not in this life but we continue to expand to another level of learning.
Teresa – Thanks for the post! I think another thing we need to realize is that it is our responsibility to appreciate and enjoy the beautiful things this life has to offer! (Somehow, that’s often left out of our “responsibilities” as female leaders)
So very true Joan!
I found my happy & I don’t try to force results. Makes life easier & worth living.
Yes ma’am!
That’s awesome Teresa… still working on finding my happy and why I don’t have my groove… dernit!
Sound like a pleasure vacation is in order Kristen
Oh, do I ever understand this one, Teresa! That old Protestant Work Ethic is so ingrained in me, I still have to face it (and it’s detriments) now and then.
This is me: “I had to surrender the force of making what I desired to happen and trust what the next step was to be.”
I still find myself trying to force things. But now I ask myself: Will this make me happy? Will I be happy doing it?
If the answer is no, now I step way back ad take another look . . .
Love this post!
Those are really great and powerful questions, Susan. It is amazing how we can reflect and make better decisions when we choose to be conscious of what is happening in our lives.
I love this post I do think we need pleasure in our life. I agree that there is a link between pleasure and creativity. Completion is great but really we should love the process first and foremost. Thanks for sharing.
Perfectly said and so agree – enjoy the process. The process is really about being in our feminine – the moment, the creativity and allowing ourselves the joy.