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Woman Entrepreneur – Why Doing It Alone Hurts

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  Woman Entrepreneur - Why Doing It Alone Hurts

Are you a woman entrepreneur hoping to share an idea, opportunity or something of great value?  If so, you will likely resonate with this. How many times have you heard, "No, thank you?" 

  • Or, I don't think it's for me. 
  • Or, I cannot afford it right now. 
  • Or, I will let you know. 
  • Or worst yet, I will give it a try on my own first – I am not ready to jump with anyone else yet.
 
Comments like these often come from someone you know you can help, you just know it's right for them and what you have to offer really can change their life. 
 
I've said it to opportunities and I have heard it too.  UGH. 
 

Those can be the most frustrating responses we hear, primarily because we know that it’s inherently false. So what’s really going on?

 

What's Really Going On

Usually, what’s beneath this is shame. Many women have a belief that they should be able to figure it out on their own and feel shame that they’re not further along. There’s a sense of needing to prove something to oneself or to others. And this completely takes women out of their Creative Power. In addition, this thinking is essentially false, for 3 reasons: 

 

1.  The subconscious likes to masquerade as intuition. The job of the subconscious is to perpetuate patterns and identities and to maintain with what’s familiar. In this case, the subconscious is often trying to support a belief that you are all alone in the world, that you can’t or shouldn’t depend anyone else, and that it’s actually nobler or safer to be independent. As a woman entrepreneur, it’s no wonder you think you “should” be able to do it alone. But this is the very logic that keeps you stuck, because… 
 
2. Nothing in the Universe is created in a vacuum. NOTHING is created alone.  We are all part of the fabric of life. We are creative beings tapped into this infinite vast expanse of creative energy. Everything we create is happening in co-creation with this creative energy field we call Spirit.  Without that there is simply no creation. We are always in partnership with someone or something else, whether it’s Spirit or nature or another human being.  Just like it takes a male and a female to create new life, it takes more that one person to build a business. By the very nature of being in business you can’t be alone. It requires clients, team, referral sources, and many other people along the way. 
 
3.  Spirit brings things to us through other people. The way Spirit co-creates with is by providing channels through which to operate. You cannot receive a new consciousness, a new awareness, a new experience unless it’s coming through these channels. No people, no channels. So while the idea of “going it alone” may feel valiant, it’s simply not in alignment with the way the Universe works. 
 
 
 

What is it that you really need to create success in your business?  Here are 3 ideas that will help you move forward immediately as a successful woman entrepreneur.

 
 
1.  You need a mentor, someone who has walked the path before you, is absolutely essential to your success. And I’ll share a secret – anyone who IS a mentor has HAD a mentor. They didn’t figure it out on their own either. And they can light the and way help you avoid mistakes and missteps along the way. 
 
2.  You need to surround yourself with invested, supportive community. Entrepreneurship can be a lonely, confusing path at times. Being in the energy of other people who are on the same path and who can hold you in your power, reflect to you your brilliance, and provide resources and support increases your success exponentially. 
 
3.  You need clients. Any vision you have for your business is not complete without clients.  An woman entrepreneur like you, is on a journey of challenge and victory.  You will need to learn and do whatever it takes to get those clients. If you don’t already know, the only way you are going to learn that is through other people – another woman entrepreneur perhaps.  Bottom line is this: Anything that is worth doing – any vision that you have for yourself – is going to be bigger than you. That’s what makes it so beautiful! And by it’s very nature, because it’s bigger than you, there’s just no way you can manifest it entirely by yourself, none of us do. And there’s no shame in that.
 

 

I am here to help you.  Let me share with you how together we can get you out of the struggle, doing it alone, hearing to many excuses, feeling powerless and not fulfilling your dreams……

See more here.

 

Teresa Salhi

Empower The Dream

"I can't even begin to express how much Teresa helped to guide, coach and encourage me over the last few months. She not only helped me get over fears and obstacles, but her coaching and guidance led me to discover my true passion and start a new business. This is by far, one of the best investments I have ever made. "  Christine

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Comments

  2. Yes – I am a reformed do it all on my own type, making every effort to co-create with Source and with other human beings, aka, source in human bodies. I have to say it’s not always easy, but I so agree with you that it is necessary! Great post, Teresa.

  3. Yes I agree with you, we all need a mentor- a sounding board and then we have to remember to use them 🙂 As someone who in the past thought I could do it solo and proud of it i know value my mastermind, my groups and the support i have along with a mentor xxx

  4. Having a mentor or coach who has been where you are and now where you want to be is definitely an asset. The reality is that almost everything that we as mentors and coaches teach can be found online in various places. The difference is we show how to apply the information, it’s not just theory, and we guide clients through the steps to get to where they want to be with accountability. Is it possible for individuals to do it themselves? Yes. But it takes so much longer and wastes so much time to make the mistakes and recover from them as you alluded to, Teresa. Very informative post.

  6. You take such a powerful position Teresa to lift the veil for women. The message of shame is one many women will not want to admit to. Nothing like an entrepreneurial business to make you understand who you are and the potential you have.

  7. Shame, huh? That’s an interesting point. Could very well be. I think it’s also a lack of self-esteem — the notion that they’re not worth the investment, Because it is an investment…in themselves and their business. When people tell me they can’t afford it, I ask them, “If you were able to achieve your goal, would it be worth it to you?”

  8. When I switched my business from live shows to online I thought I could learn it all on my own and struggled with it. The best thing I did was to hire a coach who was at first my web designer/SEO expert and ultimately became our coach.
    I do wonder why someone who sees our jewelry posts and writes lovely, or I have the perfect top, doesn’t make the purchase. Perhaps not some of the reasons you listed, so occasionally I’ve asked. Often it is; I love your jewelry but don’t wear much jewelry any more, have enough, someone close to me makes jewelry & i am uncomfortable buying elsewhere, need to earn more before I treat myself, must try it on. These are some of the verbal reasons. Don’t know if any are subconsious ones. What do you think when it comes to jewelry purchases?

  9. A few months into my health coaching business I realized this truth, so I friend, aromatherapist, and I started a Holistic Practitioner Alliance to meet to support each other. These women are invaluable to me. Everyone needs some time of support.

  10. Awesome post Teresa!! It is so difficult to be an entrepreneur alone…..having a community of like-minded people and a mentor to help you is so important to having more success quicker 🙂 Great share!

  11. Interesting perspective in this post, Teresa. I think there are many unconscious ‘reasons’ we stop ourselves from the very things we want. I am not sure about “the subconscious likes to masquerade as intuition”. I’d love to hear what is behind that for you, as for me intuition is a knowing. A sudden burst of pure true insight, so I don’t see how the subconscious masquerades as if it is intuition. Maybe I am missing something. 🙂 Yes, having a mentor and being part of a team or community is so very important for all of us. At different times in our lives, different people show up who are perfect for what we need in that moment.

  12. I had never thought about the reason that people don’t ask for help is shame – but I think you’re on to something. People do think they should be able to master things on their own. 2nd fiddle to this is the idea that, I think, for college educated women, it’s hard to think that after 4-8 years of college, they’d rely heavily on a “coach” of any sort who’s had a few months of training. Yet, Oprah has followed weight-loss coaches, Michael Jackson had the brains to listen to choreographers, etc!

  14. Your post about the subconscious masquerading as intuition really resonated with me. When really it was discomfort with the “new” process. Yes – going it alone is hard. Having an enlightened partner to show you the way is a much better option. Thanks Teresa.

  15. We so need people we can trust to bounce things off of, Teresa. The false thinking really is key, especially, “The subconscious likes to masquerade as intuition.” So very true! Sometimes that’s difficult to sort out, and a trusted mentor/adviser/friend makes all the difference in the world. Love this!

  16. Since becoming a full-time entrepreneur, I’ve discovered that having a community and a few important buddies have improved my outlook and my output. In the beginning, it was fairly lonely! Mentors can definitely be an awesome asset too.

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