Dear Phenomenal Woman. Yes, you. To all my sisters, colleagues, peers and friends. This is for you. I stand with you and for you. We are in this together.
It’s that time of the year when you’ll want to sit down and honestly assess how you moved forward this year, how you grew and what else needs attending to. I promise you it is worth your time.
I did that just a few days ago.
Yes, there are many things I could have done better this year. I’ve made some mistakes. There’s a lot of growth still to happen in order to turn myself and my business into the humanity serving empire I desire.
But you know what? After completing this exercise, two things happened.
First, I had to tell myself to “stop it already” as I’ve been really hard on myself over the last few weeks, thinking, “I should be further along than this!”
Second, tears of gratitude started to flow.
I realized I moved forward this year because …….
I’ve had more clients this year than ever and have truly felt their graciousness toward me as I do them.
I am so honored to be chosen to serve them in their challenging and heart-felt life transitions + transformations. Some started a new business while others needed discover where to turn next in their career or lifestyle. It’s all such a big deal and has so many layers to it. I love the work I do and the woman I serve, I feel so blessed.
I was able to leave my hubby, home and business for 3 months to care for my mother.
Not everyone can do this and so grateful I was able to. As it turns out, I weaved and squeezed through many emotional, physical and spiritual moments with her. We sold, auctioned items and packed up her country home and bought her a smaller home in town while another can still more easily stay with her. All while dealing with her saddening mental changes due to Alzheimer’s. I learned so much about life in those 3 months and what I thought I knew, I really didn’t. I reconnected in a deeper way with 3 of my precious siblings too. I think that’s what it was mostly about. I didn’t realize how much I have missed them and how needed I feel right now. Priceless.
I recognized a profound and personal growth aspect in myself. I stopped tolerating what I didn’t want.
Now this concept wasn’t new to me. So, what I mean is….I paid closer attention as this can ‘intellectually’ sound obvious and so matter-of-fact, but inwardly it builds upon layers of unconscious behavior, beliefs and thoughts. I listened to my needs and I leaned in closer to me. I began asking and wondering why some things I wanted, longed for, desired or felt part of me – well, just wasn’t showing up like other things. When we start asking more, our brain and soul get busy looking for the answers ….so time to perk up and listen.
I needed to get real with myself, stop the fog of BS and practice more of what I preached. Uh, yeah, sometimes I forget too. It’s ok, I don’t beat myself up for that, I know I am always doing my best, as we all are. Something was different this time, I was really done with pretending to go along and unconsciously avoiding the reality.
I’m done with justifying and hearing others spout their own reasons that I think I have to make my own, (like “not meant for you” or “God wants something else for you”). I oozed back into my power, some power I didn’t know I lost. I got back into spiritual alignment of what I really know. And what I know is, I was given the dream, my dream, the one I no longer judge. I was given this by God, the Universe, the Divine – because it’s weaved into my soul’s purpose already. Or I wouldn’t have this desire in the first place. My real work is to line up with it and get out-of-the-way. I am the only one making it hard and tolerating too damn much. But not anymore. Transformation from the inside out!
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By recognizing what you have been tolerating, by making a list and working thru them 1 by 1 can be the secret sauce, the elusive block crusher, or personal breakthrough you need too.
It has allowed my year to end on a personal growth high, and that always feels fantastic. My year got better as I transformed and more of what I wanted began to unfold or has come to fruition. Yeah, phenomenal woman, yeah me!
Recommended End of Year Exercise (or anytime, really).
If you feel stuck and unable to get to the next level of your goals, dreams, money blocks or life fulfillment, I recommend this exercise to you.
- Take time now to first look at all that you’ve accomplished without judgment of how big or how small.
- Now celebrate them, darling, and really feel into your Phenomenal Woman growth, change and impact.
- Make another list of what you have been tolerating for too long. Things, behaviors, thoughts, mindset, job, people, etc. Don’t justify. Be real.
- Pick one and begin making the necessary changes. Work on them one at a time. Trying to do all at once could become overwhelming, so set yourself up for success with one at a time and you’ll see positive results in a very short time.
- Recognize that you are transforming, upleveling and allow yourself to feel good about you. You are moving into what you really want and damn that feels good too!
Phenomenal Woman, I celebrate you. I celebrate your successes, your journey and your joy. I am honored to be here with you now and move into our best-ever year.
Let’s do this!
P.S. The above and more is what I will be covering in my Raise Your Glass, complimentary training, 2 Most Common Confidence & Success Mistakes Women Make and How to Break These Habits Now to Create an Amazing Year. Get the details here.
This will energize you, inspire you and get you ready to create huge shifts in your life and business. Remember, you were born a Phenomenal Woman.
Teresa Salhi
Founder, Mentor, Catalyst for Women’s Evolution
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A year end review is a part of my annual process as well and I really like your approach. I went through an exercise a few months ago that was similar to what you suggested here and that is I created a “Stop Doing” list. It started as a lark, an “experiment that I could write about, and turned into a wonderful cleansing! Thanks for even more inspiration!