I Am Lovable!
Before I get to the topic of being lovable, let me start with being confident. I used to believe that being a confident woman meant I had to get out there and do the hard, unimaginable and face the fear zone head on.
I've run a few of those 26.2 mile marathons, traveled alone to foreign lands, applied for jobs bigger than me, had a baby when I was barely done being one, spoke in front of 100's of people, chased a child molester in the dead of night…..I survived them all. I succeeded. And yes, I show up today a more confident woman due to going for it.
I also want say that it takes something else to walk the talk of a confident woman. It takes a special way of being – a gift – that everyone has but alot fewer dare embody. This gift is often harder to open than anything else. The gift is being lovable.
And this one was harder for me than any external action I took on. I didn't always feel lovable and I had many experiences in my life where what showed up for me was a mirror to my feeling of unlovability or not enough. That is where the pain comes in.
You see, everything on the inside is reflected on the outside, eventually.
The truth is, we were born lovable. A baby cries knowing they are precious and someone will come. A puppy runs and jumps without a care in the world. They know they are loved and will be cared for. Somewhere between then and perhaps now – you've lost that knowing.
You've experienced setbacks, challenges, losses and pain. You feel sometimes life is against you, life is hard and often lonely. Only skinny, pretty girls get the good stuff.
You might you just need to do that thing and you will be more confident and life will be good again, right? Yeah, it will surely help.
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What You Really Need is a Dose of Lovability
- Others will love you to the degree you love yourself.
- They will see it when you do.
Relationships require love. You need to give it to yourself so you have some to give away. So you can receive from them too. You will also attract people into your life that love themselves. Life will get so much better this way.
Love is what really builds confidence. It is the easier way. Yes, climb the mountain but climb it with love. Believe in you. See yourself shine and know you are capable, unstoppable, worthy of success and inspiring so many. Love does this.
Knowing you are lovable is demonstrated by being gifted your precious life, being alive, having unique abilities, ideas and quirky little ways that attract your perfect tribe of followers.
Accepting you are lovable is not about the past, the size of your bank account or the color of your skin. You are not your age, your size, your body – what you really are is lovable.
If you are in doubt of how you feel about being lovable, you are not alone.
Other great women like Princess Diana and Marilyn Monroe didn't believe they were lovable. They needed the world to show them and when the world did, they still did not believe. So you see, no one else can do it for you. No one else can give you the love you deserve like you can. You don't need the whole world to love you – you need you more than anyone else. It will always feel empty or lacking, fearful, and alone inside until you give yourself the gift you have been carrying inside your whole life.
Right now it is time to stop chasing love or searching for your value. You already have it inside. Let it surround you.
Tell yourself everyday in every way you can. I AM LOVABLE.
Put it where you eyes go and Post it. Shout it. Sign it. Breathe it. Write it on your hand if you have to.
This is the way of a confident woman. She is lovable. You are lovable. Got it babe?
Teresa Salhi
I work with women to reach their highest potential, out in the world, in their personal lives and their careers. Going thru a rough spot? Lost and confused? Heart broken or pissed off? Yep, life throws us into transitions, shakes our confidence and leaves us feeling stranded….it can happen. That is where a coach, mentor and confidante can help. To listen and to take action. I've got your back. Let's chat. It's on me.
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We all need to be reminded of this. I think many of us believe this deep down, but then lose sight of it when “life” happens. Thank you!
Yes, it is in our core that we are lovable – unfortunately we take on other beliefs in our life journey. So yes for sure on the reminders!
So powerful and something that I also know is a struggle for so many. Also how i healed myself
Yes, so true and so wonderful for you Suzie!
Great post… I know I am lovable, I know I am loving… but I struggle with the loving myself part… for some damned reason. Still working on that one.
That is how many women feel Kristen. It is the most important work we can do for ourselves.
I agree: being lovable starts with loving yourself. Good post! And thanks for sharing your adventures, too. 😉
Thanks Jackie!
Why is women struggle with this so much. As a health & fitness coach I have found the people who loves themselves first… before losing weight… are the ones who keep it off.
That is such a profound reality and gives people like us the purpose we have of helping others. Thank you for being here.
That really gives you a interesting perspective to help you clients. Thanks for doing what you do.
Years ago I participated in a transformational program and what I saw was a common belief. Hundreds of people were hiding the fact that they did not believe they were lovable, worthy or good enough. Sad but true. We did the work and slowly we got to see that we made it up based on something that happened. We let that made up belief seem real and took over our lives. Once revealed, shed we were free to love ourselves and create our life.
What an amazing story Rosalyn. My wish is that everyone who holds this belief will soon have a transformation. We are all born lovable.
I love this! I totally agree. “Others will love you to the degree you love yourself.” I like doing affirmations each day that say, “I love myself no matter what happens.” Thanks for sharing.
Awesome Sabrina!
I was just having this conversation about how as children, we arrive here loveable. As we become more influenced by the outside world, in our mercury phase of our biography starting at age 7, we “learn” about the world through peers and adults outside our family, and often that childlike self-love gets squashed down. It is part of our human journey to discover and rediscover who we are, and often learning to love ourselves and to allow ourselves to be loved, is a big part of the journey. Thanks for the reminder to give ourselves as much love as we think we are giving, Teresa!
OMG, yes Beverley – what an interesting human journey we are on!
Why are we women so likely to feel unlovable? Nobody is perfect, as you mentioned, not even Marilyn Monroe or Princess Diana. I love what you said about love: “You need to give it to yourself so you have some to give away.” And then you get some back. Nice article!
I am pleased you liked the article Beth – thank you for sharing your comments. You matter to me! Have a wonderful day!