What do you do when life falls apart?
Does it feel like everything in your life falls apart at the same time?
- you're getting a divorce
- the job sucks
- you got rear ended
- the hot water heater blew up – yikes!
It sure can feel like it all comes tumbling down on you at once, huh?
In this short video What do I Want (when life falls apart)
I mentioned 2 areas of my life that were falling apart and catapulted me into a journey of pain and triumph. When life falls apart – it is your sign to go another way. A sign from your soul!
Sometimes we wonder…
- Did one happen because of the other?
- Does tragedy or life challenges come in groups of 2's, 3's or 4's?
- Was it a coincidence?
- Am I being tested?
- Why is this happening to me?
I believe these often painful 'grouped circumstances' happen (and they can also be groups of awesome experiences too) not because we are just unlucky or bad things always happen to us – but because of the amount of energy or focus we are putting on them.
For me, feeling unhappy, disappointed, frustrated and confused on was something I could not shake. I could not pretend on the inside it wasn't happening, although on the outside I did – or at least I tried to.
I believe my experiences at work and at home were fueled by underlying feelings I had about myself, my lack of value, my worth and if I was really living up to my potential or loving myself enough (not in my case). Therefore, the experiences in my outer world where a match to those inner feelings. Unfortunate, but true.
Yet, here I am today in a realm of living my real truth. I feel my worth and value by doing my purpose out in the world and I am sharing a home with my beloved who is a gift from God. It didn't all turn around overnight but it did turn around.
What was my secret?
I did not realize it at the time, but my life changed when I stopped ignoring what I didn't like or what wasn't working – but instead used IT, used IIIITTTTT – to steer me in a new direction.
- What did I WANT?
- How did I really want to FEEL about myself, my life, my career, my love?
Asking myself questions + more questions and finally learning to LISTEN to the answer Hint!), getting help from a COACH, learning how to change a sabotaging MINDSET, studying SPIRITUAL LAWS, and staying FOCUSED on what was POSSIBLE – turned my world around for the better – MUCH BETTER.
It's been quite a journey that's for sure. Some crappy stuff still happened. I lost my desire once or twice. I gave into the mindset that wanted to keep me stuck – because of the error thinking that is is easier to stay put. Oh boy! Does the mind trip you up on that one. But every darn step was a step into a stronger woman, a woman of wisdom, confidence, knowing and purpose.
I got a thicker skin too. Not a thicker skin to where I took on an ENTITLEMENT attitude but one of deeper compassion and love for myself so I stopped tolerating a lower mentatlity.
My invisible thicker skin helped me to turn a blind eye to any flashes of negativity in my mind, in my environment, on what I chose to watch on TV or listen to from others. I got a thicker skin when part of me wanted to blame, find an excuse or be a victim. I had to have that tough love talk with myself. And the truth is, I still do sometimes.
- Maybe you too have had enough.
- Maybe you too are ready to stop driving to work in tears, hiding at home, pretending it will be ok ….someday.
- Maybe you too are willing and ready to use that description of what you don't want to take you into a new direction.
Yes? I am rooting for you. I know you can overcome, prosper, inspire, be a lady of purpose, a queen of success, a high vibrational spiritual woman.
What do you want? Now is your time to dig in, uncover the desire, shake off the not good enoughs and fuel the passion in your spirit. Ready? Please give yourself the gift of listening to your soul speak it's truth to you. Lean in a little closer and take notes and march to the drum of your heart beat.
There others waiting for you to fully show up and express yourself in all it's glory. Hear me, they are waiting for you….they need you.
Here's to your Success!!
CEO (Chief Empowerment Officer) and creator of Empower The Dream
Professional coach for brave women who are ready to achieve career & life success.
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