Relationships are the foundation of our happiness and wellbeing. They are also a mirror to our inner self.
Our relationship with the external world (people, things) and our relationship with the internal world (ourselves, thoughts, feelings, beliefs). It all matters. Everyday we get the opportunity to make ours a little juicier, happier, with more understanding, rewarding, forgiving and to let go of or embrace more of.
It's all about choices and when you feel overwhelmed by or blinded to your choices- it may be time to seek outside support. I did and I can now offer my expertise to you.
I learned the hard way thru alot of tears and despair. I was making wrong choices and most of it had to do with how I treated myself. I didn't realize I was contributing to my failures due to lack of my own self love. I thought it was because they didn't love me – but that was the ugly mirror.
You can attract loving relationships to you and it stays when you love yourself. This will help.
Also, some say astrology plays a role in supporting our relationships too. Our featured article by Sheri Horn will talk more about that.
Sheri Horn (see bio below) is our newest blog writer at Empower The Dream, she will share her wisdom, wit and align you with the stars! Enjoy!
HOW INTIMATE CAN YOU GO?
LIBRA NEW MOON OCTOBER 2015
The Libra New Moon ushers in roughly two weeks during which we are presented with the opportunity to go deep — about our partnerships — the most important one of which is our relationship to self…
With Mercury in Libra until November 2, and Venus in Virgo until November 8, this Libra New Moon provides us the archetypal energy necessary to delve seriously into how our partnerships mirror back to us our very own energies.
However, what's most important to understand about Libra's archetypal energy is that it's always inherently aware of "the other." This awareness necessarily leads to understanding "as within, so without," which in turn allows us to see our true selves through the energetic makeup of someone else…
And it's our acceptance or rejection of the energies of those around us — and with whom we choose to partner — that tells the tale of true enlightenment!
So what about when "the other" projects back to you stuff you don't like? Do you continue to try to change him or her? Or do you assume the only way to relate is to let them walk all over you? Common sense dictates that many of us fall somewhere in between these two extremes, and that our choices vary throughout our lives, depending on our age and stage.
What She Said…
Transiting Uranus opposite this New Moon may lead to sudden departures in relationships, or — better yet — sudden realizations and aha! moments where all was cloudy but NOW all is clear. These revelations, regardless of how and about whom they manifest, are meant to teach you more about yourself…
As we move forward toward our highest karmic destiny — which is to know ourselves so that we may love and accept ourselves for who we really are — it benefits us to realize that we discover exactly who we are by using others as our mirror.
Instead of alternately being horrified, hurt, saddened, embarrassed, enraged, or (fill in the blank), we may recognize instead that the words and actions of others stem from within — ourselves! While this is such a bitter pill for many of us to swallow, swallow it we must if we are interested in growth in consciousness.
Anything that helps provide us with greater knowledge about ourselves in turn allows us to feel compassion. When we show compassion to ourselves, we manifest it out in the world in the form of others capable of expressing such compassion back to us…
"So then, the relationship of self to the other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself."
~ Alan Watts
Think about it: This makes hatred virtually impossible!
When you truly "get" that your shadow side is repressed and then projected out onto others and comes back to you in the form of their words and actions, then you understand why acceptance & love for all beings is important: Namely because when you accept others for who and what they are, you are consciously (or unconsciously!) accepting yourself. This happens when you recognize their energies as your own.